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A New Year: I Resolve to Reassess

Lee Aldrich MiddlesageFirst off, let me wish everybody a safe, healthy and Happy New Year. Secondly, let me tell you I’m not a resolution maker. I used to do that in the past but found that when all the things I had promised myself I would do, see, change, etc., didn’t come to fruition, I felt disappointed in myself. Which lead to an “aw, screw it” attitude for any remaining resolutions that may have been hanging on for dear life.


What I have learned is to reassess:

  • my life and the path it is following;
  • the things that are important to me;
  • relationships;
  • the way I spend my time;

in order to re-evaluate where things may be out of kilter. This year is no different. What I realize is that I’ve strayed from my path, distracted with the new sights, sounds and experiences….it’s time for me to get back on the road less traveled.

I’m happy with my life – it is ever changing and non-predictable which keeps me on my toes. It is complacency that dulls our senses and lulls us into a state of just existing. I want to run, laugh, be joyous, sit quietly, reflect, feel. Looking at this past year, I have been able to adjust my state of mind and learn to be:  in the moment, in the event, in a precious slice of time that will never happen again.

file000933452536Where I see I am off kilter, is in the commitment to a relationship. I’m a prayin’ gal, and God is the ground that keeps me centered, but since we moved to Colorado, we’ve fallen away from attending church. I’m not doing all I can for the relationship. It’s not the dogma I miss, since dogma is where the rules and regs govern the external, and for me, spirituality is not found externally. Spirituality and connection to God is found internally. It springs from love and hope and faith.

Church can help prime a spiritual pump that sometimes runs close to dry. It makes me accountable to myself, while carving out a block of time that is committed to God. I figure with the joy and sadness that runs through life, and always being able to count on this relationship to celebrate the joys and share the sadness, it’s high time to get back on the path that many opt not to travel. It’s time for us to get back to church.

1452425_10200581511929704_622976416_aIt’s January 3rd, and already it’s a great year. I got to spend New Year’s Eve with my sweetie (last year we were separated by quite a few states) and we had a fabulous meal in our home; we soaked in the hot tub during a beautiful snow squall; the Spartans won the 100th Rose Bowl (Go GREEN!); my brother and sister-in-law sent fabulous pictures of my 5 month old nephew decked out in Spartan gear – right down to his socks; we finally finished watching all the Hobbit movies; I have a wonderful writing partner and LONGtime friend – Barb; Barb and I have a great site that lets you into our lives and experiences; I am re-assessing my life to re-evaluate what needs work.

Resolutions frequently come on a whim with very little thought put into how to implement them. Neither Barb or I make resolutions…

We live immersed in narrative, recounting and reassessing the meaning of our past actions, anticipating the outcome of our future projects, situating ourselves at the intersection of several stories not yet completed.    Peter Brooks

We couldn’t have said it any better. Happy New Year!


Do YOU make resolutions? Do YOU reassess or take stock of your life in a new year? We’d LOVE to hear YOUR story!





  1. Lisa

    4 January

    I don’t make New Year’s resolutions

    • Lisa

      4 January

      Oops sorry about that..I was having trouble with inputting website.

      You can delete the first comment if you’d like. I don’t make New Year’s Resolutions. It’s pointless to me.

      I wanted to touch on your statements regarding church. I was away from the “Church” for a while but I still had my spiritual bond with God. After our move, Hubby and I made a commitment to go back to church and we have. We also started going to retreats, both couples and by ourselves. We all need that connection and something to make us grounded. I hope you find your way back to the church. It strengthens you and as a couple with your loved one!
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      • Lee Aldrich

        6 January

        Lisa – that’s where we are. Still had the spiritual bond, but the involvement and commitment to a community was missing. Made the first trip back to church yesterday. I agree that we need connection, and as we get older if you don’t have kids at home anymore it’s more difficult to find that connection. We’re “interviewing” ; ) the area churches to see where we fit. Thank you for sharing your comments and experience. Have a great week!

  2. Bouncin Barb

    4 January

    Happy New Year!! I enjoyed your post and Barb’s on reassessing your lives for 2014. I really get it. I do not make resolutions but I have found that the beach/sun/ocean are my church and I’ve decided to put much more effort into my writing, my self worth, and my happiness. After all, we can all strive to be happier can’t we? It doesn’t mean that we aren’t happy, but maybe, we are complacent. That’s how I feel. The weather isn’t cooperating lately and I really need to connect at my church!!
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    • Lee Aldrich

      6 January

      Happy, Happy back atcha!Speaking from the land of low temps right now, but pretty snow, sun and mountains, I totally understand the connection with the beach. I and my entire family are water people. Direction in life is wonderful and it sound like you’re setting yourself on a great path. Thank you for reading and your generous comments. Have a great week – and hope the weather turns around for you!

  3. Julie Phelps

    5 January

    There is super wisdom in your post, Lee. I don’t make New Year’s Resolutions either. What I do is poke myself with daily reflections of how I’m doing, how much I am devoting total awareness to whatever moment I am in.
    Constant reassessment 🙂
    Not being aware is, as you indicate, complacency. I don’t want to live a complacent life. I strive to make the most of it so that when I am in my final hours on the planet I can look back without saying “I wish I woulda…”.
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    • Lee Aldrich

      6 January

      Julie – that is a fabulous way to live your life. Constant reassessment is the way to keep ourselves on track. I think you’re doing a better job at it than I am so I need kick it into gear! Complacency just sucks the life out of life and makes us settle for less than we deserve. Right there with you on your thoughts about your final hours.
      Thank you for your kind and thoughtful comments! Have a great week!

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