Waiting For The Future to Begin is also known as “I’ll be Happy when (fill in the blank)….” You’ll be happy when: you lose the weight, buy a house, sell a house, get married, get divorced, find a new job, etc., etc., etc. Does this sound like you? If so, you’re waiting for the future, waiting for something to happen in order to begin being happy.
Henri Junttila in the article “The Illusion of Waiting for the Future to be Happy” says that “the future is an illusion. It’s just a concept in your head.” Junttila states that:
- “I wanted more money, more adventure, and more time so I could be in the present moment. When I put it like that, it almost seems crazy, doesn’t it? But that’s how your mind works. It promises that you’ll get something that you already have. The problem is that to be at peace, you have to transcend the mind.”
Eckhart Tolle echoes that thought in that thought from The Power of Now. Tolle states that “Waiting Is a State of Mind:”
- “Are you a habitual ‘waiter’? How much of your life do you spend waiting? What I call ‘small-scale waiting’ is waiting in line at the post office, in a traffic jam, at the airport, or waiting for someone to arrive, to finish work, and so on. ‘Large-scale waiting’ is waiting for the next vacation, for a better job, for the children to grow up, for a truly meaningful relationship, for success, to make money, to be important, to become enlightened. It is not uncommon for people to spend their whole life waiting to start living.
- “Waiting is a state of mind. Basically, it means that you want the future; you don’t want the present. You don’t want what you’ve got, and you want what you haven’t got. With every kind of waiting, you unconsciously create inner conflict between your here and now, where you don’t want to be, and the projected future, where you want to be. This greatly reduces the quality of your life by making you lose the present.”
Waiting for the future in order to be happy puts us in a place of limbo, makes us unaccountable for our current state of life or unhappiness, and keeps us reaching for happiness in a place we can’t really visit….the future.
We can squander what we have right now, for an ideal of a future that may never come to fruition. Or, we can take a good, hard look at why we’re trying to escape our present life, and realize the future is just smoke and mirrors and what we pretend it will be.
Are you Waiting for the Future to Begin to be happy?